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New to BDSM? This is How You Can Start

New to BDSM? This is How You Can Start

Authored By fantasyparty Admin

Curiosity and sexual experimentation are always great for boosting up your sex life. BDSM, the consensual and erotic power play, may have used to be a guilty pleasure but in the liberal (and post 50 Shades of Grey) BDSM is no longer - nor it should be - taboo.

And yet, if you’ve ever fantasized about adding some kink into your sex life but feel confused, or even intimidated, it’s perfectly normal. With the right knowledge and an open approach, BDSM can turn fantasy into reality. From using bondage to experimenting with kinky toys, here are six ways you can start exploring BDSM.

 

First Off: Talk

Open communication is the number 1 rule for consensual BDSM that’s enjoyable for both sides. That means, both the submissive partner and the dominant one are dedicated to keeping each other safe and happy.

Though it might be difficult to bring up something new to your partner, it is important to talk over everything new before you try it, choose a safe word and make this adventure a joint learning experience.

 

Now, Talk Dirty

Dirty talk is an easy and free way to add some spice up your sex life. In the context of BDSM, it allows you to express your desires, whether you are dominant or submissive. For starters, try verbalizing your fantasies, call each other “Sir” or “Madam” and throw in the occasional curse word.

 

Don’t Be Afraid to Spank

Spanking is definitely one of the most common ways of adding power games into your sexual experience. Before running out to buy the gear, start spanking with the most available tool: your hand. If you feel like you want to up your spanking game, start with a relatively soft paddle with leather.

When you feel advanced, you can move forward to wood and silicone paddles, flappers and riding crops that have more bite to them.

Red Cheeks Spank Me Kit, 22.99$

 

Go Under Dark

Blindfolds are a great way of adding a sensory dimension to build some tantalizing tension. When taking away the sense of sight from your partners, you not only enhance control but also heighten other senses, like the touch of a feather, a whisper in their ear or a pinch and a spank.

 

Use a Candle

Experiment with temperature play with massage candles, by drizzling hot wax on your partner’s body (or vice versa.) It’s important to note that you shouldn’t use any candle you pick up from the store. Massage candles designed for erotic use usually burn at lower temperatures and are mixed with oils that can be used for erotic massage afterward.

 

Lil Pheromone Soy Massage Candle, 19.99$

Learn How to Tie

Before going into tying up your partner, it would be useful to learn some basic knot-tying techniques. You don’t have to use bondage rope for the first tries, experiment with a tie or a scarf. Being tied down is one of the best ways of transforming into the lack of control that is BDSM.

Scandal Bondage Bar, 34.99$



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